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Hey,
How are you ?
Welcome to my Blog.
I am not an active blogger.
Before this, I have had some posts on but, I decided to take it all out and star up FRESH again...I felt that my posts were just too boring.
Even I hated it...
Of course most of the time it is of personal opinion basis but, there was no spice... nothing that would trigger the interest...
So, thank you for stopping by.
Please do leave a comment....
( 2nd June 2012)

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Complicated soul on the journey to self discovery...

Sunday 15 July 2012

Just One Call

Things wouldn't have been so hard if you didn't decide to disappear from my life all of a sudden. You had all means to have contacted me but you did not. So, I decided that I don't need to hope for you to come around anymore.

I confessed and, you said you were okay with it. I told you that I just want to let you know. I didn't mean to scare you away. I know I am not the prettiest girl in the world but, don't you think I deserve to know why you left me hanging? I do not know of your intentions. I do not know how you see me as. I am sorry if I got it all wrong.

Unfortunately, I fell for you. I kept it in for too long and I needed you to know. I thought of telling you earlier but, you already had someone at the time and I thought I should just stay away. Then, the time seemed all right again when she left you. I've been there day and night to make sure you were fine. Have you not wondered why?

I did not see your time of despair as an opportunity. I wouldn't want to be your rebound either. I knew at the time if I told you that I have feelings for you, you would take it the wrong way and might stay away from me. However, I took the risk of telling you anyway because, I didn't want to loose you anymore. Not to anyone. Thus, as I assumed you did exactly as I thought you would. I wouldn't blame you. I was stupid to have thought that you will still stick around.

Now, all I want to do is to get over you. I don't want to think of you anymore nor have any thoughts of you in my mind and heart. I don't want to care about you or what you do or even with whom you might be with at this very moment. I know we have our differences. I hoped that you would have looked pass all that and try to think of the possibilities. Too bad, guess you never did look pass anything at all.

I was always waiting. Always... Now, I have stopped but, you keep coming back into my life. Why? What more do you want from me? What do you want me to think of it as? If you think what you're doing is 'returning favors,' please don't . I don't need you to return any favors. You don't have to. You have no obligations towards me and nor do I. We have nothing to look forward to. I am tired of fighting with myself, with my feelings and my mind.

You have no idea how deeply have you broken my heart and hurt my feelings. I felt like an idiot waiting for something that will never happen and keep hoping for the impossibles. Now, I don't expect you to come back and make any changes. We are back to square one. We are now, just strangers. All I want from you are answers.

You could have called. You could have messaged me. You could have just stayed in touch. We could have been just friends if you were straight forward at the time. Why didn't you call? Why didn't you leave me a message? Why didn't you stay in touch? It hurts to see you just walk away like that. Why in hell did you leave me hanging?! If I did a mistake, you could have told me.

All those time, I acted like a fool trying to impress you and I end up being one. Did you really not notice or are you just pretending? Why in hell did you lead me on? I didn't want to be your anybody, I just wanted to know if you have or had the feelings that I have for you. I don't expect for your commitment. I just want to know if my feelings were worth anything at all. Yes or No, I would take it. As much as I am afraid to know your answers, I think I am willing to take the risk to be crushed and hurt one last time before I totally let go. I need to let go.

If you really want to return a favor, just give me the answers I need. I don't wish to chat with you or talk to you about this silly matter. Just send me one last message to read and end my misery. I'm too tired already. Let me know what to do with this twisted thing between us? Honestly, I don't know what to think. Should we just stay as strangers, acquaintances or friends? I am totally lost... I am still trying to get over everything.

I've had a crush on you since I was 11 years old. I realized that it was more than just a crush as time grew. So, don't you dare tell me that it's childish. You were never in my place. I know the difference between 'like', 'monkey love', and 'love'. You don't have to give me a lesson on that. I know enough to know what and how I feel.

The reason I told you that I have feelings for you after your first break up was because, I had no other choice but to let it out before someone else start coming around. I know, I don't have any rights to question you of with whom or what you're doing with your life and, I won't. I don't care anymore. I won't. All I want are my answers. So, please. Just give me my answers. I want to be trough with this shit. You don't have to be so subtle on giving me my answers just be true and straight forward. I think I can handle it. If you wish to insult me, go ahead. I've been through worse. I am thick skinned enough to take it all for one last time and be over with it. So, please for once just tell me the truth.

If you know who you are, I hope we can keep this matter between us... I know it is ironic as I posted this on a public blog, not many know that I have a blog and those whom might know this blog do not the author of this blog and if they do, they won't know about you... I am sorry but, please give me my answer...

Saturday 14 July 2012

We Girls

When we girls dream to be with a perfect guy and instead always fall for the wrong guys, don't think we are being stupid. Though we always admit after a broken heart that we have been stupid, the truth is; we have always hoped that the wrong guys we fall for will turn to be our heroes, our MR.Right. Unfortunately, reality always kicks in hard and thus we end up with broken hearts and hopes and nights of tear stained pillows. You know what guys, we are not stupid as we say we are, it's just that our intentions, dreams and hope are too naive to know the truth behind your skin.

We hate it when you treat us like fast food and old t-shirts. However, we always want to be near you and never let you go in the hopes that one day you will come around and make all our fights and hopes worth it. We just want a small magic to happen in our lives. Make us your Cinderella. We just want our prince to save us from dreaming all the time and instead live a dreamy life peacefully and with lots of drama.

We know we can be really dramatic sometimes. We won't be happy about how we look even if you say that we are beautiful. We won't even agree if you say the truth and we always expect you to call first or apologize first when we have a fight. The truth is, we want to know if you will always love us even though we are nervous wreaks.

Guys, we are not perfect so please don't take advantage of our feelings. When we care, we really mean it. When we want you by our side, it doesn't mean we are weaklings. Why we want you by our sides, we never knew the true reason.

A woman can always cope up with life alone if she wants to. Too bad, God created us in such a way that we always long to give our love and dedicate our vulnerable feminine feelings to someone. We never want to make your lives miserable. We are just weird and unpredictable. Our hormones are always crazy. We even call ourselves crazy.

Most of all, when we say that we love you, we always mean it. When we say we have feelings for you, we always cared and even if you are in a relationship with another, we pretend like we don't mind but, truthfully we always want you for ourselves.

The moment we delete you from our facebook friends' list, it doesn't mean we have issues with you. It means we have to try to stop caring about you and move on. We have to stop hoping that anything is ever going to change. Basically, we give up on our hopeless dreams and feelings that never mattered to you. As said by many, one-sided love story is the least to ever succeed.

Love cannot be one-sided can it? Sometimes, we stupidly go against this fact and keep hoping for the universe to help us change the phase. However, reality slaps us on our face and tells us that we are two different people and each with our own destiny and fates. Differences, became a reason for us to stop hoping for something that will never happen.

So, what happen to true love? Isn't our love true enough for you to be the one and only reason for us to leave our destiny and instead share yours? We know that sometimes, when things work out to be in a relationship, somethings can go wrong too and we might blame each other for the unfortunate events that might have took place but, it doesn't mean we want you to leave.

Let us tell you, even if we scream and say that we hate you and want you to leave, we just want you to hold us tight and tell us that you'll never leave and that we'll work things out together...

Truth is, we can never hate you. We might be angry with you but, we'll never hate you. We'll always keep loving you.

If you want to know why some of us totally move on and don't give a shit of how your life turn out to be, it's because we are badly hurt and we don't want to go through it again and thus, we stay away from you and never allow you to come back into our lives ever again... sorry... but, we just can't...

Monday 9 July 2012

Sleepless Night 8th/7/2012

Well I came back from a tiring event yesterday and went to bed at about 2pm and woke up at 8pm... what happened was that, I took dinner while watching my favorite series "CASTLE" on my laptop. Then, I started doing origami and then I also started doing art (painting to be specific) the whole night. So, here are some of the outcomes of a sleepless night.

Well this is the first that I worked on... 
This is the second painting that I worked on...


This is the third painting that I worked on...
Finally, the fourth painting that I worked on...  (I know that face is a little bit retarded... hahaha...  I still need to work on that )


These are the origami that I worked on before I got carried away with the paintings...

Well, after doing many small origami of the crane, I decided to do it big... ( I kind of got some obsession with the crane shaped origami.)

Well, I am not a professional but, I am happy to share my hobby with you guys... I know I've got lots to improve though... hahaha.... okay, got to sleep now... zzz... (10.04am)

Signing off...
<3

Thursday 5 July 2012

Mistakes I can't forget...

I remember the time when I was studying in Primary school... My life skill teacher instructed us to paint the chairs and table in the 'life skill workshop' there were so much of paint but less paint brush so, my friend and I being brats, we decided to use our bare hands as paint brush and started painting the chairs blue... hahaha... that was fun! Stupidly, we got carried away and the teacher had already put away the 'tinner' (a solution to easily wash away stains of paint) as we call it. By the way, the teacher didn't know that we were doing it with our hands... hahaha... I know it really shows how negligent she was but, I don't want to blame her, for what I did to her was worse and I should and am feeling guilty about it. We didn't clean our hands properly and even our uniforms were stained with blue paint. My friend's father was totally cool about it even though he did kind of lectured her on the way home. My dad on the other hand, got really pissed off and I was really afraid of getting punished by him that I blamed an invisible friend and my teacher for my mistake. Ooops! I told him that all my friends told me that if I did not participate to paint, I would be punished by my teacher. My dad went to meet my teacher and scolded (shouted to be specific) her! Damn! I felt really bad but, I had to save myself at the time. Sorry teacher ( I don't remember her name anymore )

Tuesday 3 July 2012

Don't Worry, Be Happy!

Well, these are questions that we might often ask ourselves.
"Why can't I do anything right?"
"Why didn't I think of it earlier?"
" How could I have missed that?"
I am sure that at least 1out of 10 people reading this would understand the situation.

Ever had the one moment when you were in need of an excellent idea but you just couldn't think of it and, when everything is over, you would ponder and tell yourself that you could have done something different and much interesting or better for make the event/moment an unforgettable one?

Well, I am not an expert or a psychologist to tell you about the technical problems that happens in your brain. I can only tell you of what I know from experience and observation.

The main reason why we can't seem to think properly at the time of need is because we are to worried. When we worry too much, we are automatically afraid to take risks. We are also afraid to try new ideas because, we are worried if it will not turn out right.

Worrying about ideas before putting them into action becomes the main reason for a plan or an idea to fail.

At the end, some of us might just give up. Some might drive themselves crazy. Some might drive themselves into depression.

Worrying also causes people to stay away from you as you give off a really uncomfortable aura. People tend to stay away and act really weird around you as you send out negative vibes to them. They working environment becomes really up tight and it makes others feel as though there is no room for air. So, they move away.

Sometimes, people might think that you are complaining or being angry even though you are talking to them in a tone that's considered polite (to you of course).

Worrying also changes your mood. You get tired easily and finally you are socially diagnosed to be stressed.

I remember Bob Marley's song titled "Don't worry, be happy". That song just makes me smile. The lyrics are funny and the music is soothing. The most important phrase in the whole song is; "DON'T WORRY, BE HAPPY." I know Bob Marley could have been really high on weeds when he sang the song but, what ever it was, the song definitely turn out right.

It's true what Bob Marley said in his song. Don't worry and just be happy.
You are not homeless,
you have food to eat,
you have clothes to wear,
you have people that you can depend on somehow or rather.

No matter what happens, don't worry and be happy. If there is a way in, there will always be a way out. Sometimes, plans work out and sometimes, they don't. It doesn't mean it's the end of the world. It just means, more opportunities to keep trying out new ideas. I means more opportunities to improve ones self. It means to open up opportunities to test the balance of possible and impossibles.

There is only one cure for being worried and it is;

LAUGHTER!

Just wake up every morning and laugh. If you don't laugh, then just smile. Don't worry, people won't think that you are crazy.

I mean, how crazy can you be when you are already living in this crazy world anyways right?

I mean, the world is already full of weed, drugs and whole of other kind of shit anyways. How bad can it be to wake up and laugh every morning?

Relax. Don't worry and be happy!

Sunday 1 July 2012

Judging a book by its cover

Society plays an important role on how an individual turn out to be.
Society in this case can include - Friends, family and strangers.
Technically, when someone is involved in a negative action, we automatically reply to the action with a negative reaction. We don't question them on why did they involve themselves in the negative action in the first place. We just jump into conclusion that they are bad people. On top of that, we ask others to stay away from them. Indirectly banishing and isolating them from everybody that could have helped them to get out of their misery.
Why judge a person when you don't know their story?
Why don't we question the possibilities?
Why?
An innocent girl could be putting herself in the market tonight, risking her reputation and neglecting her value  for the sake of earning some money for food. Society, would not question on why is she doing so. Instead, they just label her as a whore. A cheap slut. Nobody questions her story and reason of why she is doing so. Men, on the other other hand, support the act by buying her for a night of erotic pleasure. Why can't they stop her? Why didn't they help her? Human trafficking is bad, we all know that. However, those whom support the continuation of it is worse than an animal! Think about it. Why is it that human trafficking a never ending battle? Because, no matter what money still comes in for the those whom supply. Profit is still there. Why? Because, people have been supporting it. It doesn't have to be you or me but, someone out there is still doing it. Why didn't we question of why it did not stop? Most campaigns have their efforts but, they are still hypocritical. Nothing stopped. Why waste money and time on it? Supporting a campaign to stop human trafficking is not enough to stop it. Yes, we have saved many lives but, why hasn't it stopped? Why? Ask yourselves. Why?
When we see a  girl selling herself on the street and we never stopped to ask her what her name is? Why is she doing it? Who made her do it? How to save her? We just walk pass her, labeling her with all kinds of name. When we do save those people, we still exploit them for a good story to be published in a newspaper or even a book. We support the campaigns to stop human trafficking but never once act to stop human trafficking.
Well, leave that a side for a moment and lets investigate on the most common and simplest issue; 'Smoking'. We all know that smoking is bad. However, we can still find products of tobacco being sold almost everywhere. We hypocritically support the non-smoking campaign but, nothing good has ever come out of it.  There are still people out there with a cigarette lit in between their fingers never bothered of what ever kind of campaign is out there to stop people from smoking. For some reason, I prefer smokers than those whom support human trafficking either directly or indirectly. Smokers kill themselves slowly, while those whom support human trafficking take away others' life by owning them for their own pleasure; technically man slaughter. Like it or not, that is the term best fit for them I'd say.
I do not blame everyone. I just want people to stop for a minute and think about it. Why does society constantly judge a book by its cover and hypocritically support campaigns that are merely for the use of publicity?

A dedication to a special friend: Chin Lee Kee @ Chille (R.I.P)


You were as joyful as cricket,
As beautiful as Butterfly;
But I didn't know,
You have a life as short as a butterfly's.

Your smile will always light up the room,
Your voice will remain in our head;
Your steps in our lives are memories to be treasured,
You my friend, are a special girl.

Too bad GOD loves you too much,
To allow you to stay a little bit more longer;
Too jealous of you,
As you are loved more than HIM.

We will Love You,
Treasure You;
And remember you,
You'll always remain our friend.

We love you Chin Lee Kee,
May GOD bless your soul;
May you Rest In Peace,

( Trade Marked by Silent Writer )

Sweet but, Complicated


Those times we shared were special to me,
Those times we spared were worthwhile.
Those times we held each other, I treasure it;
Those times we hung on tight was beautiful.

I miss you, I do.
You brighten my day,
You light up my space,
You are always the one and only.

I wonder if this is love,
I wonder if this feeling is true,
I wonder if I can tell you,
I wonder if I do love you.

Confused, disturbed and lost, and
Have no where to go,
Have no place to run.
I wonder if you are my answer.

I know, you know.
I know you well.
I can read you, and
I can tell.

Don't be a hypocrite,
Be a man!
Say what you know is the truth,
Say what you know is real.

Because, I don't want to cheat myself,
Because, I don't want to cheat you;
I open my heart to the possibilities
Of either rejections or acceptance.

For being the woman I am,
I am proud to say that I've given my heart to one man!
For being the woman I am,
I am blessed that I am able to fall in love.

Now, I know.
Now, I understand.
Now, I belief.
Love strikes only once.

I love you, I confess.
My feelings are pure and,
I know it's true and,
I know it'll last forever.

My heart is given,
My soul for yours,
But, to commit in a relationship,
Is a promise I can't make.

For that, I feel ashamed;
I feel sad.
Because I know,
To be with you is difficult.

Difficult, not because of you but,
Difficult because of me.
Because, I have dreams to achieve and,
Because, I want to dominate my life.

Selfish? I am.
Still, I'm a human.
I want to and will decide,
On how I want my life to be.

Wonder if you will ever understand but,
I am happy to let you know.
I am happy with my life.
I am happy being who I am.

You know, I will always love you.
You know, I am always here.
You know, I'm true.
You know, I meant it well.

Does truths hurt? Or lies just keep us safe?

Like everybody I'm just a regular, normal, most simplest and yet, complicated person. I meet all kinds of people. Sometimes, I have to admit that I have been a hypocrite. Sad but, that's the fact. I have dreams and plans that are visible only to my eyes but, not others. 


They are too busy talking and I've been too busy listening to them. Whenever I want to talk about myself, I have to think ten times before going on. They don't want to hear me talk but, love to when I talk about them. Pathetic isn't it? 


I sometimes feel sorry for them because they all want the truth to be hidden from their eyes. Because, the truth hurts. So, basically our lives are filled with lies because lies don't hurt. 


The only truth that I find to be most valid is the fact that "Lies, keep us safe and truth, no matter what, screws it all up." 


You can keep arguing about this statement but still you'll come back to the same most common conclusion. "THE TRUTH HURTS" and "LIES KEEP US SAFE". 


Only truth can break lies and only lies can keep us from being broken or shall I say; hurt. You think GOD never hid the truth to keep his children safe? or put it another way, don't you think he would hide the truth to keep you safe? 


Think about it... Right now, the real question will be; "Do you want to live a life of lies?"


(This is one of my old posts that I have written and edited.)

Points taken from Neil Gaiman's Commencement speech !


Career plan OR List
No idea of what ure doing is GREAT
Test the balance of the POSSIBLE
Ask questions - write
Experience
What you want to do?
Your goal! The path that you take either TOWARDS or AWAY?
Learn to write by writing
Learn to fail. Be thick skinned.
Don't write just for money.
Face your problem.
Stop saying yes and learn to say NO.
Problem with success is that the world will conspire to stop the things that you do because you are successful.
Make mistakes- means you did something good/bad.
Life is hard, things go wrong.
When things get tough, MAKE GOOD ART.
Do what you can do best!
Make your art.
Start with copying. Good stories come after sounding like many others.
By the end you will find yourself and tell your story.
We learn more when mistakes are done.
People get hired bcz somehow they get hired.
You get work however you get work.

Freelance.
2 out of 3 is fine.
People will tolerate how unpleasant you are if your work is good and you're on time.
People will forgive your lateness if they like you and your work is good.
You don't have to be good if you're on time and it's always a pleasure to hear from you.

Best piece of advice by Stephen King to Neil Gaiman
"This is really great, you should enjoy it."

Don't be too worried.
Let go and enjoy the ride.
We don't know what the rules of today are.
Be creative as you can.
Pretend to be someone who could do it.
Be wise, bcz the world needs more wisdom.
If you cannot be wise, jst pretend that you are someone wise and act just like they would.
Make mistakes, make interesting mistakes, make glorious mistakes, break rules...
MAKE GOOD ART!!!

( Please ignore the spelling... I kinda used the 'sms' language a little)
=P

Relationships

Well, let us ponder on questions about relationship...

#1 Is he the right guy?
I read a quotation that goes like : "Heart, find for love when you are ready; not when you are lonely."
Its true really. Most of the time we jump into relationships when we are lonely and not when we are actually ready to commit. Sometimes, we jump into relationships when we are influenced. We see everybody doing it that we want to do it to. We see others flirting around and having the most romantic moments in front of our eyes that we want to have the same thing going on in our life. Simply said, we end being desperate for individual attention. Gay or not gay... this goes out to all. Some might not agree and, I have no right to stop anyone from agreeing or disagreeing.

#2 Can I trust him?
Rather than asking the question if you trust the guy or not, ask yourself the question "Can I trust myself?"
If you really are into someone right now, ask yourself if you are willing to sacrifice your dreams for that person. Ask yourself, even though if the person says that he/she supports your dreams and will never stop you from reaching for it. Why? Because, when situations change, in time people will change too. Either one will have to make a sacrifice. Is your dream a bigger deal than the person you are with? How sure are you that the person with you right now wouldn't leave you when he/she finds that his/her dream is much bigger of a deal than you are?

#3 Is mutual separation a good choice?
Well, I can't really answer this question but, I'll let you know what I know. I have friends that have had break-ups on mutual basis. Honestly, they are good. They end up being good friends and help each other out when something is up. Is it healthy? Well, it depends. If you break up with someone on mutual basis, make sure that you are sure that you do not carry any hatred or dissatisfaction in yourself. Sometimes, people break up saying that they broke up on mutual basis but, because one of them have very strong feeling about the other and cannot let go, the relationship becomes weirder. If you really want to end a relationship on mutual basis, be ready to LET GO. Yes, it would be hard when you come to ponder about those days when the both of you are really close and spent every special moments together. It would be hard when you are not more use to being independent. However, don't forget that there is always room for trial and error.

#4 Does distance relationship make love stronger?
Honestly, no! However, make room for possibilities. Sometimes, distance in a relationship does not happen voluntarily. It could be unexpected due to one and another's plan. It could be a situation that both sweethearts have to study in two different institutes. It could happen to married couples too. Husband being a doctor and wife being a lawyer. Both, barely have the time to sit and have a cup of coffee together and 24hours is never enough. Time, plays the biggest role in a relationship. Women feel neglected when men do not give enough attention to them and they end up feeling lonely and wander away. The same goes with men. When they don't see their spouse around much, they would just end up going on philandering ways. So, think about it. There are no specific answer for this question. Its either you can or cannot and, most of all; both parties have to commit.

#5 Is sex really important in a relationship?
Well, it depends on how you view sex. Do you view sex as just a way of pleasuring each other or; do you view sex as something sacred in a relationship. We are called humans for a reason. It is because we have brains and IQ level which are higher than that of animals. Nowadays, people have sex like animals. Taking the definition of "erotic" to a whole new level. They even give the types of sex labels in which case, each type of sex has its own name. When you are really in love, you respect each other when you are making sweet love. Not, treat each other like animals. Ask yourself, do you view sex as something sacred or just mere pleasure. I wouldn't disagree if you view sex merely as pleasure. It is totally normal. What I am trying to say is, have sex when you are really ready (for teens) and give respect and take respect when being in bed with the person you love. For the teens out there, when your boyfriend asks you to prove to him that you love him by having sex with him; DON'T THINK TWICE! LEAVE HIM! HE'S NO GOOD! You don't have to prove to anybody of your pure innocence of loving someone. If he knows you know you truly love him and if he really loves you, he would never ask you to prove to him that you love him by having sex with him. A gentlemen will never do such thing. If he knows, he knows. He wouldn't pester you for it and respect your feelings towards him. He wouldn't test you.

#6 Should I leave my man when I know he is abusive?
The answer, OF COURSE! Leave him and don't think twice about it. Listen up woman! You should have left the moment he started abusing you emotionally with words. A man starts being violent with words first and only then do they get physically abusive. How would you know when to get out? Simple, it starts with him blaming you for everything. Then maybe, he will ask you disturbing questions such as; "are you sure that the baby's mine?"; "did you sleep with anyone else before me?" etc... they might even make sexual remarks about you in front of strangers or family or friends. These types of men are troubled psychologically and need help; OR just needs reality to slap them hard on their face and wake them up and teach them to stand up on their own feet and take responsibility for their own mistakes. Women are strong beings, we can always stand up on our own feet and start over. It wouldn't be a smooth ride but, I'll tell you for sure that it will all be worth it.
For the teens out there with abusive boyfriends, let them go. Leave them. Life has better plans for you and you deserve better and mature men not, BOYS. You need a man not a boy in your life. A man will never hurt you no matter in what situation or condition he's in. Yes, you might say that you want to be an understanding girlfriend and you don't want to give up on your relationship. Accept reality, not everything will go as planned. When you have to go, you just have to go. Expand your horizon. You are still young and you still have better opportunities out there. When a boy raises his hand on you for the first time and you accept it without complain, he will never stop. Know your value. Step up, say no and leave! If he wants you back, he has to make the effort to gain your trust again. Fear in relationships is never healthy, and is no good. It is dangerous.

#7 Does individual standards matter in a relationship?
Honestly, YES! In today's world, standards do matter. How educated are you? How educated is your spouse? Women of great standards have to and will need to find for men whom are either equal to or of much higher standard than they are. Why? Men are beings of exceptionally high ego. Men get intimidated if the woman they are with have better educational background or have better paid jobs than they do. Although our world today is very modern and advanced in technology, the stereotypical mind set that society have of men being the pillar of the family still exists. This is a highly contributing factor for men being very self conscious on their standards. However, we can't say that all men are like this. Some men don't really mind. They stay proud of their spouses doing great in their career and constantly give moral support for them to carry on doing better. 


Well, this is as much as I have for you guys today. If you have other questions, please do feel free to leave a comment. 
Thank you for your time. 


A whole new blog...

I know I have deleted all my posts...
Well, you might want to know why I did so...
#1 It was too boring and immature to me
#2 It lacks of purpose
#3 I decided to write better than just craps...

So, there you go... now, you can expect much better writes I guess...

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Sunday 15 July 2012

Just One Call

Things wouldn't have been so hard if you didn't decide to disappear from my life all of a sudden. You had all means to have contacted me but you did not. So, I decided that I don't need to hope for you to come around anymore.

I confessed and, you said you were okay with it. I told you that I just want to let you know. I didn't mean to scare you away. I know I am not the prettiest girl in the world but, don't you think I deserve to know why you left me hanging? I do not know of your intentions. I do not know how you see me as. I am sorry if I got it all wrong.

Unfortunately, I fell for you. I kept it in for too long and I needed you to know. I thought of telling you earlier but, you already had someone at the time and I thought I should just stay away. Then, the time seemed all right again when she left you. I've been there day and night to make sure you were fine. Have you not wondered why?

I did not see your time of despair as an opportunity. I wouldn't want to be your rebound either. I knew at the time if I told you that I have feelings for you, you would take it the wrong way and might stay away from me. However, I took the risk of telling you anyway because, I didn't want to loose you anymore. Not to anyone. Thus, as I assumed you did exactly as I thought you would. I wouldn't blame you. I was stupid to have thought that you will still stick around.

Now, all I want to do is to get over you. I don't want to think of you anymore nor have any thoughts of you in my mind and heart. I don't want to care about you or what you do or even with whom you might be with at this very moment. I know we have our differences. I hoped that you would have looked pass all that and try to think of the possibilities. Too bad, guess you never did look pass anything at all.

I was always waiting. Always... Now, I have stopped but, you keep coming back into my life. Why? What more do you want from me? What do you want me to think of it as? If you think what you're doing is 'returning favors,' please don't . I don't need you to return any favors. You don't have to. You have no obligations towards me and nor do I. We have nothing to look forward to. I am tired of fighting with myself, with my feelings and my mind.

You have no idea how deeply have you broken my heart and hurt my feelings. I felt like an idiot waiting for something that will never happen and keep hoping for the impossibles. Now, I don't expect you to come back and make any changes. We are back to square one. We are now, just strangers. All I want from you are answers.

You could have called. You could have messaged me. You could have just stayed in touch. We could have been just friends if you were straight forward at the time. Why didn't you call? Why didn't you leave me a message? Why didn't you stay in touch? It hurts to see you just walk away like that. Why in hell did you leave me hanging?! If I did a mistake, you could have told me.

All those time, I acted like a fool trying to impress you and I end up being one. Did you really not notice or are you just pretending? Why in hell did you lead me on? I didn't want to be your anybody, I just wanted to know if you have or had the feelings that I have for you. I don't expect for your commitment. I just want to know if my feelings were worth anything at all. Yes or No, I would take it. As much as I am afraid to know your answers, I think I am willing to take the risk to be crushed and hurt one last time before I totally let go. I need to let go.

If you really want to return a favor, just give me the answers I need. I don't wish to chat with you or talk to you about this silly matter. Just send me one last message to read and end my misery. I'm too tired already. Let me know what to do with this twisted thing between us? Honestly, I don't know what to think. Should we just stay as strangers, acquaintances or friends? I am totally lost... I am still trying to get over everything.

I've had a crush on you since I was 11 years old. I realized that it was more than just a crush as time grew. So, don't you dare tell me that it's childish. You were never in my place. I know the difference between 'like', 'monkey love', and 'love'. You don't have to give me a lesson on that. I know enough to know what and how I feel.

The reason I told you that I have feelings for you after your first break up was because, I had no other choice but to let it out before someone else start coming around. I know, I don't have any rights to question you of with whom or what you're doing with your life and, I won't. I don't care anymore. I won't. All I want are my answers. So, please. Just give me my answers. I want to be trough with this shit. You don't have to be so subtle on giving me my answers just be true and straight forward. I think I can handle it. If you wish to insult me, go ahead. I've been through worse. I am thick skinned enough to take it all for one last time and be over with it. So, please for once just tell me the truth.

If you know who you are, I hope we can keep this matter between us... I know it is ironic as I posted this on a public blog, not many know that I have a blog and those whom might know this blog do not the author of this blog and if they do, they won't know about you... I am sorry but, please give me my answer...

Saturday 14 July 2012

We Girls

When we girls dream to be with a perfect guy and instead always fall for the wrong guys, don't think we are being stupid. Though we always admit after a broken heart that we have been stupid, the truth is; we have always hoped that the wrong guys we fall for will turn to be our heroes, our MR.Right. Unfortunately, reality always kicks in hard and thus we end up with broken hearts and hopes and nights of tear stained pillows. You know what guys, we are not stupid as we say we are, it's just that our intentions, dreams and hope are too naive to know the truth behind your skin.

We hate it when you treat us like fast food and old t-shirts. However, we always want to be near you and never let you go in the hopes that one day you will come around and make all our fights and hopes worth it. We just want a small magic to happen in our lives. Make us your Cinderella. We just want our prince to save us from dreaming all the time and instead live a dreamy life peacefully and with lots of drama.

We know we can be really dramatic sometimes. We won't be happy about how we look even if you say that we are beautiful. We won't even agree if you say the truth and we always expect you to call first or apologize first when we have a fight. The truth is, we want to know if you will always love us even though we are nervous wreaks.

Guys, we are not perfect so please don't take advantage of our feelings. When we care, we really mean it. When we want you by our side, it doesn't mean we are weaklings. Why we want you by our sides, we never knew the true reason.

A woman can always cope up with life alone if she wants to. Too bad, God created us in such a way that we always long to give our love and dedicate our vulnerable feminine feelings to someone. We never want to make your lives miserable. We are just weird and unpredictable. Our hormones are always crazy. We even call ourselves crazy.

Most of all, when we say that we love you, we always mean it. When we say we have feelings for you, we always cared and even if you are in a relationship with another, we pretend like we don't mind but, truthfully we always want you for ourselves.

The moment we delete you from our facebook friends' list, it doesn't mean we have issues with you. It means we have to try to stop caring about you and move on. We have to stop hoping that anything is ever going to change. Basically, we give up on our hopeless dreams and feelings that never mattered to you. As said by many, one-sided love story is the least to ever succeed.

Love cannot be one-sided can it? Sometimes, we stupidly go against this fact and keep hoping for the universe to help us change the phase. However, reality slaps us on our face and tells us that we are two different people and each with our own destiny and fates. Differences, became a reason for us to stop hoping for something that will never happen.

So, what happen to true love? Isn't our love true enough for you to be the one and only reason for us to leave our destiny and instead share yours? We know that sometimes, when things work out to be in a relationship, somethings can go wrong too and we might blame each other for the unfortunate events that might have took place but, it doesn't mean we want you to leave.

Let us tell you, even if we scream and say that we hate you and want you to leave, we just want you to hold us tight and tell us that you'll never leave and that we'll work things out together...

Truth is, we can never hate you. We might be angry with you but, we'll never hate you. We'll always keep loving you.

If you want to know why some of us totally move on and don't give a shit of how your life turn out to be, it's because we are badly hurt and we don't want to go through it again and thus, we stay away from you and never allow you to come back into our lives ever again... sorry... but, we just can't...

Monday 9 July 2012

Sleepless Night 8th/7/2012

Well I came back from a tiring event yesterday and went to bed at about 2pm and woke up at 8pm... what happened was that, I took dinner while watching my favorite series "CASTLE" on my laptop. Then, I started doing origami and then I also started doing art (painting to be specific) the whole night. So, here are some of the outcomes of a sleepless night.

Well this is the first that I worked on... 
This is the second painting that I worked on...


This is the third painting that I worked on...
Finally, the fourth painting that I worked on...  (I know that face is a little bit retarded... hahaha...  I still need to work on that )


These are the origami that I worked on before I got carried away with the paintings...

Well, after doing many small origami of the crane, I decided to do it big... ( I kind of got some obsession with the crane shaped origami.)

Well, I am not a professional but, I am happy to share my hobby with you guys... I know I've got lots to improve though... hahaha.... okay, got to sleep now... zzz... (10.04am)

Signing off...
<3

Thursday 5 July 2012

Mistakes I can't forget...

I remember the time when I was studying in Primary school... My life skill teacher instructed us to paint the chairs and table in the 'life skill workshop' there were so much of paint but less paint brush so, my friend and I being brats, we decided to use our bare hands as paint brush and started painting the chairs blue... hahaha... that was fun! Stupidly, we got carried away and the teacher had already put away the 'tinner' (a solution to easily wash away stains of paint) as we call it. By the way, the teacher didn't know that we were doing it with our hands... hahaha... I know it really shows how negligent she was but, I don't want to blame her, for what I did to her was worse and I should and am feeling guilty about it. We didn't clean our hands properly and even our uniforms were stained with blue paint. My friend's father was totally cool about it even though he did kind of lectured her on the way home. My dad on the other hand, got really pissed off and I was really afraid of getting punished by him that I blamed an invisible friend and my teacher for my mistake. Ooops! I told him that all my friends told me that if I did not participate to paint, I would be punished by my teacher. My dad went to meet my teacher and scolded (shouted to be specific) her! Damn! I felt really bad but, I had to save myself at the time. Sorry teacher ( I don't remember her name anymore )

Tuesday 3 July 2012

Don't Worry, Be Happy!

Well, these are questions that we might often ask ourselves.
"Why can't I do anything right?"
"Why didn't I think of it earlier?"
" How could I have missed that?"
I am sure that at least 1out of 10 people reading this would understand the situation.

Ever had the one moment when you were in need of an excellent idea but you just couldn't think of it and, when everything is over, you would ponder and tell yourself that you could have done something different and much interesting or better for make the event/moment an unforgettable one?

Well, I am not an expert or a psychologist to tell you about the technical problems that happens in your brain. I can only tell you of what I know from experience and observation.

The main reason why we can't seem to think properly at the time of need is because we are to worried. When we worry too much, we are automatically afraid to take risks. We are also afraid to try new ideas because, we are worried if it will not turn out right.

Worrying about ideas before putting them into action becomes the main reason for a plan or an idea to fail.

At the end, some of us might just give up. Some might drive themselves crazy. Some might drive themselves into depression.

Worrying also causes people to stay away from you as you give off a really uncomfortable aura. People tend to stay away and act really weird around you as you send out negative vibes to them. They working environment becomes really up tight and it makes others feel as though there is no room for air. So, they move away.

Sometimes, people might think that you are complaining or being angry even though you are talking to them in a tone that's considered polite (to you of course).

Worrying also changes your mood. You get tired easily and finally you are socially diagnosed to be stressed.

I remember Bob Marley's song titled "Don't worry, be happy". That song just makes me smile. The lyrics are funny and the music is soothing. The most important phrase in the whole song is; "DON'T WORRY, BE HAPPY." I know Bob Marley could have been really high on weeds when he sang the song but, what ever it was, the song definitely turn out right.

It's true what Bob Marley said in his song. Don't worry and just be happy.
You are not homeless,
you have food to eat,
you have clothes to wear,
you have people that you can depend on somehow or rather.

No matter what happens, don't worry and be happy. If there is a way in, there will always be a way out. Sometimes, plans work out and sometimes, they don't. It doesn't mean it's the end of the world. It just means, more opportunities to keep trying out new ideas. I means more opportunities to improve ones self. It means to open up opportunities to test the balance of possible and impossibles.

There is only one cure for being worried and it is;

LAUGHTER!

Just wake up every morning and laugh. If you don't laugh, then just smile. Don't worry, people won't think that you are crazy.

I mean, how crazy can you be when you are already living in this crazy world anyways right?

I mean, the world is already full of weed, drugs and whole of other kind of shit anyways. How bad can it be to wake up and laugh every morning?

Relax. Don't worry and be happy!

Sunday 1 July 2012

Judging a book by its cover

Society plays an important role on how an individual turn out to be.
Society in this case can include - Friends, family and strangers.
Technically, when someone is involved in a negative action, we automatically reply to the action with a negative reaction. We don't question them on why did they involve themselves in the negative action in the first place. We just jump into conclusion that they are bad people. On top of that, we ask others to stay away from them. Indirectly banishing and isolating them from everybody that could have helped them to get out of their misery.
Why judge a person when you don't know their story?
Why don't we question the possibilities?
Why?
An innocent girl could be putting herself in the market tonight, risking her reputation and neglecting her value  for the sake of earning some money for food. Society, would not question on why is she doing so. Instead, they just label her as a whore. A cheap slut. Nobody questions her story and reason of why she is doing so. Men, on the other other hand, support the act by buying her for a night of erotic pleasure. Why can't they stop her? Why didn't they help her? Human trafficking is bad, we all know that. However, those whom support the continuation of it is worse than an animal! Think about it. Why is it that human trafficking a never ending battle? Because, no matter what money still comes in for the those whom supply. Profit is still there. Why? Because, people have been supporting it. It doesn't have to be you or me but, someone out there is still doing it. Why didn't we question of why it did not stop? Most campaigns have their efforts but, they are still hypocritical. Nothing stopped. Why waste money and time on it? Supporting a campaign to stop human trafficking is not enough to stop it. Yes, we have saved many lives but, why hasn't it stopped? Why? Ask yourselves. Why?
When we see a  girl selling herself on the street and we never stopped to ask her what her name is? Why is she doing it? Who made her do it? How to save her? We just walk pass her, labeling her with all kinds of name. When we do save those people, we still exploit them for a good story to be published in a newspaper or even a book. We support the campaigns to stop human trafficking but never once act to stop human trafficking.
Well, leave that a side for a moment and lets investigate on the most common and simplest issue; 'Smoking'. We all know that smoking is bad. However, we can still find products of tobacco being sold almost everywhere. We hypocritically support the non-smoking campaign but, nothing good has ever come out of it.  There are still people out there with a cigarette lit in between their fingers never bothered of what ever kind of campaign is out there to stop people from smoking. For some reason, I prefer smokers than those whom support human trafficking either directly or indirectly. Smokers kill themselves slowly, while those whom support human trafficking take away others' life by owning them for their own pleasure; technically man slaughter. Like it or not, that is the term best fit for them I'd say.
I do not blame everyone. I just want people to stop for a minute and think about it. Why does society constantly judge a book by its cover and hypocritically support campaigns that are merely for the use of publicity?

A dedication to a special friend: Chin Lee Kee @ Chille (R.I.P)


You were as joyful as cricket,
As beautiful as Butterfly;
But I didn't know,
You have a life as short as a butterfly's.

Your smile will always light up the room,
Your voice will remain in our head;
Your steps in our lives are memories to be treasured,
You my friend, are a special girl.

Too bad GOD loves you too much,
To allow you to stay a little bit more longer;
Too jealous of you,
As you are loved more than HIM.

We will Love You,
Treasure You;
And remember you,
You'll always remain our friend.

We love you Chin Lee Kee,
May GOD bless your soul;
May you Rest In Peace,

( Trade Marked by Silent Writer )

Sweet but, Complicated


Those times we shared were special to me,
Those times we spared were worthwhile.
Those times we held each other, I treasure it;
Those times we hung on tight was beautiful.

I miss you, I do.
You brighten my day,
You light up my space,
You are always the one and only.

I wonder if this is love,
I wonder if this feeling is true,
I wonder if I can tell you,
I wonder if I do love you.

Confused, disturbed and lost, and
Have no where to go,
Have no place to run.
I wonder if you are my answer.

I know, you know.
I know you well.
I can read you, and
I can tell.

Don't be a hypocrite,
Be a man!
Say what you know is the truth,
Say what you know is real.

Because, I don't want to cheat myself,
Because, I don't want to cheat you;
I open my heart to the possibilities
Of either rejections or acceptance.

For being the woman I am,
I am proud to say that I've given my heart to one man!
For being the woman I am,
I am blessed that I am able to fall in love.

Now, I know.
Now, I understand.
Now, I belief.
Love strikes only once.

I love you, I confess.
My feelings are pure and,
I know it's true and,
I know it'll last forever.

My heart is given,
My soul for yours,
But, to commit in a relationship,
Is a promise I can't make.

For that, I feel ashamed;
I feel sad.
Because I know,
To be with you is difficult.

Difficult, not because of you but,
Difficult because of me.
Because, I have dreams to achieve and,
Because, I want to dominate my life.

Selfish? I am.
Still, I'm a human.
I want to and will decide,
On how I want my life to be.

Wonder if you will ever understand but,
I am happy to let you know.
I am happy with my life.
I am happy being who I am.

You know, I will always love you.
You know, I am always here.
You know, I'm true.
You know, I meant it well.

Does truths hurt? Or lies just keep us safe?

Like everybody I'm just a regular, normal, most simplest and yet, complicated person. I meet all kinds of people. Sometimes, I have to admit that I have been a hypocrite. Sad but, that's the fact. I have dreams and plans that are visible only to my eyes but, not others. 


They are too busy talking and I've been too busy listening to them. Whenever I want to talk about myself, I have to think ten times before going on. They don't want to hear me talk but, love to when I talk about them. Pathetic isn't it? 


I sometimes feel sorry for them because they all want the truth to be hidden from their eyes. Because, the truth hurts. So, basically our lives are filled with lies because lies don't hurt. 


The only truth that I find to be most valid is the fact that "Lies, keep us safe and truth, no matter what, screws it all up." 


You can keep arguing about this statement but still you'll come back to the same most common conclusion. "THE TRUTH HURTS" and "LIES KEEP US SAFE". 


Only truth can break lies and only lies can keep us from being broken or shall I say; hurt. You think GOD never hid the truth to keep his children safe? or put it another way, don't you think he would hide the truth to keep you safe? 


Think about it... Right now, the real question will be; "Do you want to live a life of lies?"


(This is one of my old posts that I have written and edited.)

Points taken from Neil Gaiman's Commencement speech !


Career plan OR List
No idea of what ure doing is GREAT
Test the balance of the POSSIBLE
Ask questions - write
Experience
What you want to do?
Your goal! The path that you take either TOWARDS or AWAY?
Learn to write by writing
Learn to fail. Be thick skinned.
Don't write just for money.
Face your problem.
Stop saying yes and learn to say NO.
Problem with success is that the world will conspire to stop the things that you do because you are successful.
Make mistakes- means you did something good/bad.
Life is hard, things go wrong.
When things get tough, MAKE GOOD ART.
Do what you can do best!
Make your art.
Start with copying. Good stories come after sounding like many others.
By the end you will find yourself and tell your story.
We learn more when mistakes are done.
People get hired bcz somehow they get hired.
You get work however you get work.

Freelance.
2 out of 3 is fine.
People will tolerate how unpleasant you are if your work is good and you're on time.
People will forgive your lateness if they like you and your work is good.
You don't have to be good if you're on time and it's always a pleasure to hear from you.

Best piece of advice by Stephen King to Neil Gaiman
"This is really great, you should enjoy it."

Don't be too worried.
Let go and enjoy the ride.
We don't know what the rules of today are.
Be creative as you can.
Pretend to be someone who could do it.
Be wise, bcz the world needs more wisdom.
If you cannot be wise, jst pretend that you are someone wise and act just like they would.
Make mistakes, make interesting mistakes, make glorious mistakes, break rules...
MAKE GOOD ART!!!

( Please ignore the spelling... I kinda used the 'sms' language a little)
=P

Relationships

Well, let us ponder on questions about relationship...

#1 Is he the right guy?
I read a quotation that goes like : "Heart, find for love when you are ready; not when you are lonely."
Its true really. Most of the time we jump into relationships when we are lonely and not when we are actually ready to commit. Sometimes, we jump into relationships when we are influenced. We see everybody doing it that we want to do it to. We see others flirting around and having the most romantic moments in front of our eyes that we want to have the same thing going on in our life. Simply said, we end being desperate for individual attention. Gay or not gay... this goes out to all. Some might not agree and, I have no right to stop anyone from agreeing or disagreeing.

#2 Can I trust him?
Rather than asking the question if you trust the guy or not, ask yourself the question "Can I trust myself?"
If you really are into someone right now, ask yourself if you are willing to sacrifice your dreams for that person. Ask yourself, even though if the person says that he/she supports your dreams and will never stop you from reaching for it. Why? Because, when situations change, in time people will change too. Either one will have to make a sacrifice. Is your dream a bigger deal than the person you are with? How sure are you that the person with you right now wouldn't leave you when he/she finds that his/her dream is much bigger of a deal than you are?

#3 Is mutual separation a good choice?
Well, I can't really answer this question but, I'll let you know what I know. I have friends that have had break-ups on mutual basis. Honestly, they are good. They end up being good friends and help each other out when something is up. Is it healthy? Well, it depends. If you break up with someone on mutual basis, make sure that you are sure that you do not carry any hatred or dissatisfaction in yourself. Sometimes, people break up saying that they broke up on mutual basis but, because one of them have very strong feeling about the other and cannot let go, the relationship becomes weirder. If you really want to end a relationship on mutual basis, be ready to LET GO. Yes, it would be hard when you come to ponder about those days when the both of you are really close and spent every special moments together. It would be hard when you are not more use to being independent. However, don't forget that there is always room for trial and error.

#4 Does distance relationship make love stronger?
Honestly, no! However, make room for possibilities. Sometimes, distance in a relationship does not happen voluntarily. It could be unexpected due to one and another's plan. It could be a situation that both sweethearts have to study in two different institutes. It could happen to married couples too. Husband being a doctor and wife being a lawyer. Both, barely have the time to sit and have a cup of coffee together and 24hours is never enough. Time, plays the biggest role in a relationship. Women feel neglected when men do not give enough attention to them and they end up feeling lonely and wander away. The same goes with men. When they don't see their spouse around much, they would just end up going on philandering ways. So, think about it. There are no specific answer for this question. Its either you can or cannot and, most of all; both parties have to commit.

#5 Is sex really important in a relationship?
Well, it depends on how you view sex. Do you view sex as just a way of pleasuring each other or; do you view sex as something sacred in a relationship. We are called humans for a reason. It is because we have brains and IQ level which are higher than that of animals. Nowadays, people have sex like animals. Taking the definition of "erotic" to a whole new level. They even give the types of sex labels in which case, each type of sex has its own name. When you are really in love, you respect each other when you are making sweet love. Not, treat each other like animals. Ask yourself, do you view sex as something sacred or just mere pleasure. I wouldn't disagree if you view sex merely as pleasure. It is totally normal. What I am trying to say is, have sex when you are really ready (for teens) and give respect and take respect when being in bed with the person you love. For the teens out there, when your boyfriend asks you to prove to him that you love him by having sex with him; DON'T THINK TWICE! LEAVE HIM! HE'S NO GOOD! You don't have to prove to anybody of your pure innocence of loving someone. If he knows you know you truly love him and if he really loves you, he would never ask you to prove to him that you love him by having sex with him. A gentlemen will never do such thing. If he knows, he knows. He wouldn't pester you for it and respect your feelings towards him. He wouldn't test you.

#6 Should I leave my man when I know he is abusive?
The answer, OF COURSE! Leave him and don't think twice about it. Listen up woman! You should have left the moment he started abusing you emotionally with words. A man starts being violent with words first and only then do they get physically abusive. How would you know when to get out? Simple, it starts with him blaming you for everything. Then maybe, he will ask you disturbing questions such as; "are you sure that the baby's mine?"; "did you sleep with anyone else before me?" etc... they might even make sexual remarks about you in front of strangers or family or friends. These types of men are troubled psychologically and need help; OR just needs reality to slap them hard on their face and wake them up and teach them to stand up on their own feet and take responsibility for their own mistakes. Women are strong beings, we can always stand up on our own feet and start over. It wouldn't be a smooth ride but, I'll tell you for sure that it will all be worth it.
For the teens out there with abusive boyfriends, let them go. Leave them. Life has better plans for you and you deserve better and mature men not, BOYS. You need a man not a boy in your life. A man will never hurt you no matter in what situation or condition he's in. Yes, you might say that you want to be an understanding girlfriend and you don't want to give up on your relationship. Accept reality, not everything will go as planned. When you have to go, you just have to go. Expand your horizon. You are still young and you still have better opportunities out there. When a boy raises his hand on you for the first time and you accept it without complain, he will never stop. Know your value. Step up, say no and leave! If he wants you back, he has to make the effort to gain your trust again. Fear in relationships is never healthy, and is no good. It is dangerous.

#7 Does individual standards matter in a relationship?
Honestly, YES! In today's world, standards do matter. How educated are you? How educated is your spouse? Women of great standards have to and will need to find for men whom are either equal to or of much higher standard than they are. Why? Men are beings of exceptionally high ego. Men get intimidated if the woman they are with have better educational background or have better paid jobs than they do. Although our world today is very modern and advanced in technology, the stereotypical mind set that society have of men being the pillar of the family still exists. This is a highly contributing factor for men being very self conscious on their standards. However, we can't say that all men are like this. Some men don't really mind. They stay proud of their spouses doing great in their career and constantly give moral support for them to carry on doing better. 


Well, this is as much as I have for you guys today. If you have other questions, please do feel free to leave a comment. 
Thank you for your time. 


A whole new blog...

I know I have deleted all my posts...
Well, you might want to know why I did so...
#1 It was too boring and immature to me
#2 It lacks of purpose
#3 I decided to write better than just craps...

So, there you go... now, you can expect much better writes I guess...

=)