So, here you go...
Early
Marriages
Most
of the time, early marriages are related to child marriages. However, this time
I would like to relate early marriages to adults whom range from the age of 17
to 25 and not children. As fact, we all have known that child marriages are
unacceptable and irrational and there are many articles about it on the
internet that you can immediately get to in a second. In contrast, early adult
marriages are not discussed as much as child marriages while many know that the
situation is almost equally harmful. To note, most of the time women have
always been the victims of these marriages. In today’s world, most women are
educated and so are the men however, why do we encounter subjects such as
divorce, cheating spouses, suicide, abortion and baby dumping? Have any of us
actually thought about this? That is why I am incorporation certain points in
the coming paragraphs.
The
main cause for such incident to take place comes from root. By root I mean, the
family. Specifically I mean the elders in the family. Young adults are very
vulnerable to emotional blackmails from their family members although they are
the most stubborn creatures. They are aware of their responsibilities towards
their family and they know if their family’s decisions are right or wrong.
However, when it comes to emotional blackmail, all logics are thrown out the
window and the only matter that would be taken into count is the happiness of
their elders. The elders in most families are not to be said uneducated
although there are some whom are uneducated or whom are lack of education.
Well, the matter is that they are not up to date with the current world. They
are still stuck with their own old mentalities and old principles which many of
us know that not all are applicable in the current world. On top of that, many
elders have the misconception that early marriage could lead to early
pregnancies that could lead to having more grandchildren. Young adults
automatically become victims of their elders’ needs.
The
effect that would come of this irrational decision could lead to young adults
ending up in divorce cases. The reason to this is that, young adults whom are
forced into early marriages are stuck in a stressful situation of not accepting
their spouses for who they are. Sometimes, too many differences of each other’s
personality and characteristics could lead to emotional frustration as they are
constantly fighting within themselves. Young adults whom are married when they
are at the age range of 21-25 will have financial problems as they did not have
the time to develop their career. If one cannot support himself, how can he be
able to support a family? Taking a woman into account, if she is married of to
a man of doesn’t matter what age he is, or how financially stable he is or even
how settled he is, the woman will still suffer in the future if any kind of
problem comes up. This is because the woman will be very dependant on the man
for all kind of support. On top of that, being married off at a very young age,
might have caused the woman to give up on her own hopes and dreams as of now,
she has been forced to take the responsibility of a wife. It costs more if the
woman does not have a higher education for her to be able to support herself
which will cause her to be totally dependant on the man she’s married to and
put up with much critical troubles in the future. Especially, if she has
children or experience domestic abuse.
Furthermore,
early marriage between young adults could also lead them to cheat on their
spouses. Having been forced to get married is not a mild issue. It involves
emotion. Women are well known to be emotional. Men, on the other hand are
equally the same but, we can’t see it because, they don’t express themselves
like women do. Women are known to be vulnerable so, when a woman cries it is
very casual. It is not a new matter. It is bound to happen. In contrast, when a
man cries, it is weird. This is actually a general point of view because, men
are always known as the stronger gender. Men are known to be stone hearted.
However, we always overlook the fact that, both men and women are just normal
human beings and, human beings have emotions and God never restricted any of
his children from expressing themselves. Getting married at a very young age
and against self will, young couples will go through misunderstandings as they
can’t accept the marriage whole heartedly to surrender himself/herself to the
person he/she is married to entirely because of his/her guilty conscience.
Therefore, there will be lack of communication, lack of physical and emotional
attachment towards their spouses. This would lead them to find for happiness
outside their marriage. Miscommunication would lead to the lack of attention
towards each others’ emotional and physical needs and this does not just
include men but, it also includes women as well. In the current world, this has
become very normal especially among young married couples.
Therefore,
young adults whom are forced into early marriages should learn to communicate
with their elders and try to make them understand that it takes time for both
individuals to be sure that they are ready to be married as well as ready to
start a family. Young adults should learn to speak for themselves and realize,
it’s their life that they are putting at risk and others’. They should realize
that they are the ones that are going to be living together against their own
will and not their elders. Marriage is a sacred foundation of starting a new
honest life with two willing hearts and, not the foundation that should be started
with compromise and lies. They should keep this in mind.
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