Well, let us ponder on questions about relationship...
#1 Is he the right guy?
I read a quotation that goes like : "Heart, find for love when you are ready; not when you are lonely."
Its true really. Most of the time we jump into relationships when we are lonely and not when we are actually ready to commit. Sometimes, we jump into relationships when we are influenced. We see everybody doing it that we want to do it to. We see others flirting around and having the most romantic moments in front of our eyes that we want to have the same thing going on in our life. Simply said, we end being desperate for individual attention. Gay or not gay... this goes out to all. Some might not agree and, I have no right to stop anyone from agreeing or disagreeing.
#2 Can I trust him?
Rather than asking the question if you trust the guy or not, ask yourself the question "Can I trust myself?"
If you really are into someone right now, ask yourself if you are willing to sacrifice your dreams for that person. Ask yourself, even though if the person says that he/she supports your dreams and will never stop you from reaching for it. Why? Because, when situations change, in time people will change too. Either one will have to make a sacrifice. Is your dream a bigger deal than the person you are with? How sure are you that the person with you right now wouldn't leave you when he/she finds that his/her dream is much bigger of a deal than you are?
#3 Is mutual separation a good choice?
Well, I can't really answer this question but, I'll let you know what I know. I have friends that have had break-ups on mutual basis. Honestly, they are good. They end up being good friends and help each other out when something is up. Is it healthy? Well, it depends. If you break up with someone on mutual basis, make sure that you are sure that you do not carry any hatred or dissatisfaction in yourself. Sometimes, people break up saying that they broke up on mutual basis but, because one of them have very strong feeling about the other and cannot let go, the relationship becomes weirder. If you really want to end a relationship on mutual basis, be ready to LET GO. Yes, it would be hard when you come to ponder about those days when the both of you are really close and spent every special moments together. It would be hard when you are not more use to being independent. However, don't forget that there is always room for trial and error.
#4 Does distance relationship make love stronger?
Honestly, no! However, make room for possibilities. Sometimes, distance in a relationship does not happen voluntarily. It could be unexpected due to one and another's plan. It could be a situation that both sweethearts have to study in two different institutes. It could happen to married couples too. Husband being a doctor and wife being a lawyer. Both, barely have the time to sit and have a cup of coffee together and 24hours is never enough. Time, plays the biggest role in a relationship. Women feel neglected when men do not give enough attention to them and they end up feeling lonely and wander away. The same goes with men. When they don't see their spouse around much, they would just end up going on philandering ways. So, think about it. There are no specific answer for this question. Its either you can or cannot and, most of all; both parties have to commit.
#5 Is sex really important in a relationship?
Well, it depends on how you view sex. Do you view sex as just a way of pleasuring each other or; do you view sex as something sacred in a relationship. We are called humans for a reason. It is because we have brains and IQ level which are higher than that of animals. Nowadays, people have sex like animals. Taking the definition of "erotic" to a whole new level. They even give the types of sex labels in which case, each type of sex has its own name. When you are really in love, you respect each other when you are making sweet love. Not, treat each other like animals. Ask yourself, do you view sex as something sacred or just mere pleasure. I wouldn't disagree if you view sex merely as pleasure. It is totally normal. What I am trying to say is, have sex when you are really ready (for teens) and give respect and take respect when being in bed with the person you love. For the teens out there, when your boyfriend asks you to prove to him that you love him by having sex with him; DON'T THINK TWICE! LEAVE HIM! HE'S NO GOOD! You don't have to prove to anybody of your pure innocence of loving someone. If he knows you know you truly love him and if he really loves you, he would never ask you to prove to him that you love him by having sex with him. A gentlemen will never do such thing. If he knows, he knows. He wouldn't pester you for it and respect your feelings towards him. He wouldn't test you.
#6 Should I leave my man when I know he is abusive?
The answer, OF COURSE! Leave him and don't think twice about it. Listen up woman! You should have left the moment he started abusing you emotionally with words. A man starts being violent with words first and only then do they get physically abusive. How would you know when to get out? Simple, it starts with him blaming you for everything. Then maybe, he will ask you disturbing questions such as; "are you sure that the baby's mine?"; "did you sleep with anyone else before me?" etc... they might even make sexual remarks about you in front of strangers or family or friends. These types of men are troubled psychologically and need help; OR just needs reality to slap them hard on their face and wake them up and teach them to stand up on their own feet and take responsibility for their own mistakes. Women are strong beings, we can always stand up on our own feet and start over. It wouldn't be a smooth ride but, I'll tell you for sure that it will all be worth it.
For the teens out there with abusive boyfriends, let them go. Leave them. Life has better plans for you and you deserve better and mature men not, BOYS. You need a man not a boy in your life. A man will never hurt you no matter in what situation or condition he's in. Yes, you might say that you want to be an understanding girlfriend and you don't want to give up on your relationship. Accept reality, not everything will go as planned. When you have to go, you just have to go. Expand your horizon. You are still young and you still have better opportunities out there. When a boy raises his hand on you for the first time and you accept it without complain, he will never stop. Know your value. Step up, say no and leave! If he wants you back, he has to make the effort to gain your trust again. Fear in relationships is never healthy, and is no good. It is dangerous.
#7 Does individual standards matter in a relationship?
Honestly, YES! In today's world, standards do matter. How educated are you? How educated is your spouse? Women of great standards have to and will need to find for men whom are either equal to or of much higher standard than they are. Why? Men are beings of exceptionally high ego. Men get intimidated if the woman they are with have better educational background or have better paid jobs than they do. Although our world today is very modern and advanced in technology, the stereotypical mind set that society have of men being the pillar of the family still exists. This is a highly contributing factor for men being very self conscious on their standards. However, we can't say that all men are like this. Some men don't really mind. They stay proud of their spouses doing great in their career and constantly give moral support for them to carry on doing better.
Well, this is as much as I have for you guys today. If you have other questions, please do feel free to leave a comment.
Thank you for your time.
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Sunday 1 July 2012
Relationships
Well, let us ponder on questions about relationship...
#1 Is he the right guy?
I read a quotation that goes like : "Heart, find for love when you are ready; not when you are lonely."
Its true really. Most of the time we jump into relationships when we are lonely and not when we are actually ready to commit. Sometimes, we jump into relationships when we are influenced. We see everybody doing it that we want to do it to. We see others flirting around and having the most romantic moments in front of our eyes that we want to have the same thing going on in our life. Simply said, we end being desperate for individual attention. Gay or not gay... this goes out to all. Some might not agree and, I have no right to stop anyone from agreeing or disagreeing.
#2 Can I trust him?
Rather than asking the question if you trust the guy or not, ask yourself the question "Can I trust myself?"
If you really are into someone right now, ask yourself if you are willing to sacrifice your dreams for that person. Ask yourself, even though if the person says that he/she supports your dreams and will never stop you from reaching for it. Why? Because, when situations change, in time people will change too. Either one will have to make a sacrifice. Is your dream a bigger deal than the person you are with? How sure are you that the person with you right now wouldn't leave you when he/she finds that his/her dream is much bigger of a deal than you are?
#3 Is mutual separation a good choice?
Well, I can't really answer this question but, I'll let you know what I know. I have friends that have had break-ups on mutual basis. Honestly, they are good. They end up being good friends and help each other out when something is up. Is it healthy? Well, it depends. If you break up with someone on mutual basis, make sure that you are sure that you do not carry any hatred or dissatisfaction in yourself. Sometimes, people break up saying that they broke up on mutual basis but, because one of them have very strong feeling about the other and cannot let go, the relationship becomes weirder. If you really want to end a relationship on mutual basis, be ready to LET GO. Yes, it would be hard when you come to ponder about those days when the both of you are really close and spent every special moments together. It would be hard when you are not more use to being independent. However, don't forget that there is always room for trial and error.
#4 Does distance relationship make love stronger?
Honestly, no! However, make room for possibilities. Sometimes, distance in a relationship does not happen voluntarily. It could be unexpected due to one and another's plan. It could be a situation that both sweethearts have to study in two different institutes. It could happen to married couples too. Husband being a doctor and wife being a lawyer. Both, barely have the time to sit and have a cup of coffee together and 24hours is never enough. Time, plays the biggest role in a relationship. Women feel neglected when men do not give enough attention to them and they end up feeling lonely and wander away. The same goes with men. When they don't see their spouse around much, they would just end up going on philandering ways. So, think about it. There are no specific answer for this question. Its either you can or cannot and, most of all; both parties have to commit.
#5 Is sex really important in a relationship?
Well, it depends on how you view sex. Do you view sex as just a way of pleasuring each other or; do you view sex as something sacred in a relationship. We are called humans for a reason. It is because we have brains and IQ level which are higher than that of animals. Nowadays, people have sex like animals. Taking the definition of "erotic" to a whole new level. They even give the types of sex labels in which case, each type of sex has its own name. When you are really in love, you respect each other when you are making sweet love. Not, treat each other like animals. Ask yourself, do you view sex as something sacred or just mere pleasure. I wouldn't disagree if you view sex merely as pleasure. It is totally normal. What I am trying to say is, have sex when you are really ready (for teens) and give respect and take respect when being in bed with the person you love. For the teens out there, when your boyfriend asks you to prove to him that you love him by having sex with him; DON'T THINK TWICE! LEAVE HIM! HE'S NO GOOD! You don't have to prove to anybody of your pure innocence of loving someone. If he knows you know you truly love him and if he really loves you, he would never ask you to prove to him that you love him by having sex with him. A gentlemen will never do such thing. If he knows, he knows. He wouldn't pester you for it and respect your feelings towards him. He wouldn't test you.
#6 Should I leave my man when I know he is abusive?
The answer, OF COURSE! Leave him and don't think twice about it. Listen up woman! You should have left the moment he started abusing you emotionally with words. A man starts being violent with words first and only then do they get physically abusive. How would you know when to get out? Simple, it starts with him blaming you for everything. Then maybe, he will ask you disturbing questions such as; "are you sure that the baby's mine?"; "did you sleep with anyone else before me?" etc... they might even make sexual remarks about you in front of strangers or family or friends. These types of men are troubled psychologically and need help; OR just needs reality to slap them hard on their face and wake them up and teach them to stand up on their own feet and take responsibility for their own mistakes. Women are strong beings, we can always stand up on our own feet and start over. It wouldn't be a smooth ride but, I'll tell you for sure that it will all be worth it.
For the teens out there with abusive boyfriends, let them go. Leave them. Life has better plans for you and you deserve better and mature men not, BOYS. You need a man not a boy in your life. A man will never hurt you no matter in what situation or condition he's in. Yes, you might say that you want to be an understanding girlfriend and you don't want to give up on your relationship. Accept reality, not everything will go as planned. When you have to go, you just have to go. Expand your horizon. You are still young and you still have better opportunities out there. When a boy raises his hand on you for the first time and you accept it without complain, he will never stop. Know your value. Step up, say no and leave! If he wants you back, he has to make the effort to gain your trust again. Fear in relationships is never healthy, and is no good. It is dangerous.
#7 Does individual standards matter in a relationship?
Honestly, YES! In today's world, standards do matter. How educated are you? How educated is your spouse? Women of great standards have to and will need to find for men whom are either equal to or of much higher standard than they are. Why? Men are beings of exceptionally high ego. Men get intimidated if the woman they are with have better educational background or have better paid jobs than they do. Although our world today is very modern and advanced in technology, the stereotypical mind set that society have of men being the pillar of the family still exists. This is a highly contributing factor for men being very self conscious on their standards. However, we can't say that all men are like this. Some men don't really mind. They stay proud of their spouses doing great in their career and constantly give moral support for them to carry on doing better.
Well, this is as much as I have for you guys today. If you have other questions, please do feel free to leave a comment.
Thank you for your time.
#1 Is he the right guy?
I read a quotation that goes like : "Heart, find for love when you are ready; not when you are lonely."
Its true really. Most of the time we jump into relationships when we are lonely and not when we are actually ready to commit. Sometimes, we jump into relationships when we are influenced. We see everybody doing it that we want to do it to. We see others flirting around and having the most romantic moments in front of our eyes that we want to have the same thing going on in our life. Simply said, we end being desperate for individual attention. Gay or not gay... this goes out to all. Some might not agree and, I have no right to stop anyone from agreeing or disagreeing.
#2 Can I trust him?
Rather than asking the question if you trust the guy or not, ask yourself the question "Can I trust myself?"
If you really are into someone right now, ask yourself if you are willing to sacrifice your dreams for that person. Ask yourself, even though if the person says that he/she supports your dreams and will never stop you from reaching for it. Why? Because, when situations change, in time people will change too. Either one will have to make a sacrifice. Is your dream a bigger deal than the person you are with? How sure are you that the person with you right now wouldn't leave you when he/she finds that his/her dream is much bigger of a deal than you are?
#3 Is mutual separation a good choice?
Well, I can't really answer this question but, I'll let you know what I know. I have friends that have had break-ups on mutual basis. Honestly, they are good. They end up being good friends and help each other out when something is up. Is it healthy? Well, it depends. If you break up with someone on mutual basis, make sure that you are sure that you do not carry any hatred or dissatisfaction in yourself. Sometimes, people break up saying that they broke up on mutual basis but, because one of them have very strong feeling about the other and cannot let go, the relationship becomes weirder. If you really want to end a relationship on mutual basis, be ready to LET GO. Yes, it would be hard when you come to ponder about those days when the both of you are really close and spent every special moments together. It would be hard when you are not more use to being independent. However, don't forget that there is always room for trial and error.
#4 Does distance relationship make love stronger?
Honestly, no! However, make room for possibilities. Sometimes, distance in a relationship does not happen voluntarily. It could be unexpected due to one and another's plan. It could be a situation that both sweethearts have to study in two different institutes. It could happen to married couples too. Husband being a doctor and wife being a lawyer. Both, barely have the time to sit and have a cup of coffee together and 24hours is never enough. Time, plays the biggest role in a relationship. Women feel neglected when men do not give enough attention to them and they end up feeling lonely and wander away. The same goes with men. When they don't see their spouse around much, they would just end up going on philandering ways. So, think about it. There are no specific answer for this question. Its either you can or cannot and, most of all; both parties have to commit.
#5 Is sex really important in a relationship?
Well, it depends on how you view sex. Do you view sex as just a way of pleasuring each other or; do you view sex as something sacred in a relationship. We are called humans for a reason. It is because we have brains and IQ level which are higher than that of animals. Nowadays, people have sex like animals. Taking the definition of "erotic" to a whole new level. They even give the types of sex labels in which case, each type of sex has its own name. When you are really in love, you respect each other when you are making sweet love. Not, treat each other like animals. Ask yourself, do you view sex as something sacred or just mere pleasure. I wouldn't disagree if you view sex merely as pleasure. It is totally normal. What I am trying to say is, have sex when you are really ready (for teens) and give respect and take respect when being in bed with the person you love. For the teens out there, when your boyfriend asks you to prove to him that you love him by having sex with him; DON'T THINK TWICE! LEAVE HIM! HE'S NO GOOD! You don't have to prove to anybody of your pure innocence of loving someone. If he knows you know you truly love him and if he really loves you, he would never ask you to prove to him that you love him by having sex with him. A gentlemen will never do such thing. If he knows, he knows. He wouldn't pester you for it and respect your feelings towards him. He wouldn't test you.
#6 Should I leave my man when I know he is abusive?
The answer, OF COURSE! Leave him and don't think twice about it. Listen up woman! You should have left the moment he started abusing you emotionally with words. A man starts being violent with words first and only then do they get physically abusive. How would you know when to get out? Simple, it starts with him blaming you for everything. Then maybe, he will ask you disturbing questions such as; "are you sure that the baby's mine?"; "did you sleep with anyone else before me?" etc... they might even make sexual remarks about you in front of strangers or family or friends. These types of men are troubled psychologically and need help; OR just needs reality to slap them hard on their face and wake them up and teach them to stand up on their own feet and take responsibility for their own mistakes. Women are strong beings, we can always stand up on our own feet and start over. It wouldn't be a smooth ride but, I'll tell you for sure that it will all be worth it.
For the teens out there with abusive boyfriends, let them go. Leave them. Life has better plans for you and you deserve better and mature men not, BOYS. You need a man not a boy in your life. A man will never hurt you no matter in what situation or condition he's in. Yes, you might say that you want to be an understanding girlfriend and you don't want to give up on your relationship. Accept reality, not everything will go as planned. When you have to go, you just have to go. Expand your horizon. You are still young and you still have better opportunities out there. When a boy raises his hand on you for the first time and you accept it without complain, he will never stop. Know your value. Step up, say no and leave! If he wants you back, he has to make the effort to gain your trust again. Fear in relationships is never healthy, and is no good. It is dangerous.
#7 Does individual standards matter in a relationship?
Honestly, YES! In today's world, standards do matter. How educated are you? How educated is your spouse? Women of great standards have to and will need to find for men whom are either equal to or of much higher standard than they are. Why? Men are beings of exceptionally high ego. Men get intimidated if the woman they are with have better educational background or have better paid jobs than they do. Although our world today is very modern and advanced in technology, the stereotypical mind set that society have of men being the pillar of the family still exists. This is a highly contributing factor for men being very self conscious on their standards. However, we can't say that all men are like this. Some men don't really mind. They stay proud of their spouses doing great in their career and constantly give moral support for them to carry on doing better.
Well, this is as much as I have for you guys today. If you have other questions, please do feel free to leave a comment.
Thank you for your time.
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